Addressing The Pain Of Rejection
Whether it’s relational, romantic, or work-related, rejection hurts.
Studies show that the pain of rejection is more than just a feeling; it actually triggers the same neural pathways in our brains as physical pain.
Hurt feelings are real, and some people bounce back faster from rejection than others. Finding your footing again can feel impossible, but it gets easier with time and practice. As your perspective shifts, you'll find yourself navigating these difficult moments more smoothly.
No quick fix
Our society is deeply invested in feeling good all the time and seeking quick fixes. True healing begins with accepting all of your emotions, even those that don’t feel pleasant. When you've been emotionally hurt, it can leave you feeling off balance. Take some time to sit with your emotions, whether it's embarrassment, anger, sadness, disappointment, discouragement, or a broken heart. Acknowledging these feelings is a crucial step in healing from an emotional injury.
Treat yourself with compassion and kindness. In the aftermath of rejection, we often beat ourselves up, calling ourselves stupid, weak, and unworthy. If you catch yourself doing this, stop and challenge that. The rejection does not define you; it is a single event in time.
Refocus
Take time with family and friends. Time together can remind you of all the reasons why you are loved, valued, and worthy. Do things that get you out of your head and back in a more balanced state. Think “calming” and “reinvigorating” when you consider how you want to spend your time.
Take stock
Consider what you can take away from the rejection. What do you want to do differently next time? What have you learned about yourself in the process?
Remember, every human being faces rejection. It is bound to happen. In fact, the more you step outside of your comfort zone and shoot for your dreams, the more likely you are to experience rejection.
And so what? What does it say about you if you experience rejection? That you took a chance! You lived life to the fullest!
By Dr. Siquilla Liebetrau,
Bowen Health VP of Clinical Services
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